We kiss our children goodbye, or we were kissed goodbye as children, at one point in our/their lives and the words “Be careful” or “Watch out for (insert things to fear here)” are spoken. We are implanting fear in them – just as we, ourselves, have had fear implanted in us throughout our entire lives. But why?
Fear doesn’t allow us to experience our best lives as our highest selves and it also stops us from pursuing our dreams and living life to the fullest. Fear creates anxiety and that is one of the biggest problems plaguing our world right now.
If you had to put all of your fears inside of a box… how big of a box would you need? And how long would it take you to put them all in there? Do you fear change? Do you fear success? Do you fear dying? Do you fear living? Do you fear being offended??
What would it take for you to not only put all of those fears in a box but to also throw them off a cliff so that they may never return. Oh, wait, are you afraid of heights??
Could I pay you enough money to do it? Could I simply reassure you that your life will change and all for the better if you would even just consider it?? What would it take?
Fear has governed my life until this past year. AND it does me absolutely no good to be afraid of things. Some say it is an innate sense that helps keep you alive. I say that it is a learned behavior that stops you from living your best life. If you stop and take the fear out of a situation, what are you left with?
For example, Lee (ex-husband who I am dating again) fears (or just doesn’t like) conversations with me about patriotism, religion, politics and guns. Today we somehow slipped into a conversation about pride in countries and I asked him why he hated talking about it. He just expects people to be patriotic and if they aren’t – he doesn’t want to hear about it. My point was that in the future, I hope we can set all guns down, no longer engage in wars, get rid of pharmaceuticals and drugs (for the most part) and live in a basically self governing peaceful, compassionate society. Allowing people to come and go freely without borders. Immediately his mind tells him to fear this… because of the controlling, fearful society we have been raised in. We are taught to fear foreigners because they mean us harm, are criminals and carry disease (every country seems to feel this way about every other country, lol). We are taught to fear life without guns because without them… how do we kill the bad guys? (I said EVERYONE puts the guns down. Crazy notion, I am aware, but mark my words it will happen). We are taught that pills are medicine, because as long as a doctor prescribes it, how could it be bad? We are taught to remember history because if we don’t – it’ll repeat itself (what if I told you – that’s one of the reasons why it is repeating itself?)
We are taught to believe what we are taught at home and in schools. We are taught not to question anything and to fear everything because it keeps us controlled and subdued.
I say fear nothing. And start with death, because if you can conquer the fear of that… everything else will be a breeze.
I think it’s sad that I have to keep fear on my list of daily things to conquer. Because it is everywhere, inside of everything… especially in all of us humans. And I no longer wish for it to live inside of me.
Be brave and fear not. Everything is a lesson or a blessing. There’s nothing to fear.